With the #greatresignation discussion, I come across numerous situations involving people leaving toxic companies, inconsiderate bosses, and unrealistic demands in their roles.
No one should have to tolerate such a negative experience.
If you are facing such a situation, you may be thinking, "I want to be my own boss and get away from all this nonsense." While there may be some truth, every difficulty is also a learning opportunity for you. And do not assume that starting on your own will shield you from negative experiences.
You may have some shielding from it, as you may have numerous choices available to you. But having options does not mean you can act on them all the time. You’ve realized this in your corporate roles and in your personal life, too.
In that context, a negative experience may be your spark. But those experiences can/must never be the fuel. What's the difference? Your experiences can help you think differently, but you cannot hold on to them on your new path. Otherwise, that bitterness and negativity carry over, keeping your true potential, gifts, and nature from showing up in bigger opportunities.
So here is a simple test.
As you explore starting on your own, ask whether your interest comes from a pull or a push. Are you getting excited and pulled by the thought of doing something different on your own, or are you running away from your current situation, thinking being your own boss will solve your problems?
Because by becoming your own boss, you will attract a lot of newness - filled with opportunities, challenges, successes, and problems. Whether you work for a company or start one, you can't beat this duality.
So my question to you is: Why do you want to start on your own? If you have already started on your own, revisit that decision point and clarify your purpose.
Here is the best part. Do not let the preceding discussion scare you. From experience, I can say my "Why" has evolved over time. Your experiences and internalization process, combined with your responses and outcomes, will continuously shape your why.
Your why isn't fixed and doesn't need to be. We must evolve as we grow as a person. But it is good to get a bearing on the current state of your why. For example, are you running away from something (shun), or are you moving towards something else (pull)?
Find a quiet place and think through this. Today.
And regularly for the next few days, weeks, and months. Do not rush this process. If you do not have enough conviction to start, you will not have enough to stay - especially when the going gets tough.
Wishing you most and more…